I Quit My Job.

One Sunday afternoon in late March, I was selling at the appliance store. It had been damn busy all day, but then there was a moment. I was standing in the middle of the washing machine section, so the appliances only came up to my waist and I had a straight shot line of vision to the front doors. A man came into the store, walked directly to me, handed me a business card, and said, “We are hiring store managers and assistant store managers.” I looked down at the card in my hand and it was for a shoe company. (more…)

“Are twin flames really just empaths and narcissists?”

Now that’s an interesting question… My answer is: no and the proof is in the seduction. The narcissist seeks out empaths, kind-hearted individuals who are sensitive to other people’s emotional pain. The empaths have great difficulty separating their own feelings from the strong impressions created within them by other people’s feelings. The empaths must necessarily lack boundaries in order to use their gift of empathy, being able to feel other people’s feelings. If empaths could block out the outside world, then they wouldn’t feel compelled to help others with their strong emotional needs. Therefore, empaths are somewhat exposed and lacking in (more…)

The 2nd anniversary of the day I left Israel to be with the narcissist.

Yesterday I realized that August 28th, 2015 was the 2nd anniversary of the day I left Israel to be with the narcissist. It has been two years since I left Israel. Wow, I can’t believe it. It’s been a terrible time for me, really crappy, but it feels like a rough month – not two years! I remember everything so vividly. I was living in my rental apartment in Safed. I was on the top floor and my bedroom window looked out upon the moon. Every night, I used to lie in bed, window completely ajar, no screens, feel the breeze (more…)

Comforting a Stranger.

I received an email from the blood bank that if I donated blood this month, I would get both a free movie ticket and a t-shirt, so I made an appointment to donate after work. The blood mobile was crowded and the waiting made me anxious. I began to worry that I wouldn’t be able to donate and instead would make a run for it. Plus, my favorite nurse, who is a funny Jamaican lady, was crabby. Clearly, something was wrong. Finally it was my turn on the donation bed. The nurse hooked me up and asked me, “What kind of (more…)

Working Definition of “Empath”.

  From biologycorner.com I have been trying to hash out a definition of “Empath” that serves this blog and its’ readership of people who unfortunately got involved with a narcissist or two or twenty. It seems to me that the difference between an empath and any average person is: Skill. Effort. Willingness to submit to the gift. Here is an example of how being an empath works in everyday life, my life: I was in the store where I work and I saw a woman approaching. She had her young daughter in a shopping cart. I am going to guess that (more…)

Empaths & Narcissists: Who Are They?

What is an Empath? One who is skilled in empathy. To define empathy, I went to the Merriam-Webster Medical Dictionary. This is significant because it indicates an effort on the part of the scientific community (which deals with empirical data and verifiable phenomenon) to begin to label and to measure something that is essentially emotions (i.e. fluff, a thought or possibly a chemical hormone in the human brain). Empathy consists of bli-mah (there’s nothing there to see, to touch or to weigh). Empathy has no physicality or physical form. Medical Definition of EMPATHY 1: the imaginative projection of a subjective state (more…)

Just For Fun – Empathy Test from Italy.

http://www.noanxiety.com/tests/empathy-test.html Empathy test The following test measures one’s empathy level. Empathy is the ability to feel and comprehend other people’s emotions. An empathic person performs an active effort to get in tune with another person, leaving out personal aptitudes such as sympathy, antipathy, fondness, and moral judgments. (Translation: An empath makes an effort to feel and understand other people’s emotions, and the empath does it with detachment. They leave their own baggage outside.) Source: Noanxiety.com P.S (I scored 152%. LOL. Just kidding. I scored a 17 out of 42.) Please share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to (more…)