“Are twin flames really just empaths and narcissists?”

Now that’s an interesting question… My answer is: no and the proof is in the seduction. The narcissist seeks out empaths, kind-hearted individuals who are sensitive to other people’s emotional pain. The empaths have great difficulty separating their own feelings from the strong impressions created within them by other people’s feelings. The empaths must necessarily lack boundaries in order to use their gift of empathy, being able to feel other people’s feelings. If empaths could block out the outside world, then they wouldn’t feel compelled to help others with their strong emotional needs. Therefore, empaths are somewhat exposed and lacking in (more…)

Red Flags that Your Lover is Abusive.

I am re-posting this image because it is a snapshot of my ex-marriage to my ex-abuser. Conversations went like this: ignore me yawn avoid eye contact interrupt mention some mistake I made 3 years ago deny talk thru me or shout over me be dismissive hijack the conversation Please share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Google+ (Opens in new window)Click to share (more…)

Rape and The Narcissist.

DISCLAIMER: Adult post for people ages 18 and over. Please do not read if you are under 18 years old or are sensitive to sexual content. As a self-imposed rule, I refrain from writing about sex. Sometimes I insinuate, but I have never written overt descriptions of human sexuality for this blog. I do not want this blog to cross that line of being graphic. However, this post is about rape. Many people still confuse rape with sex, despite the ground-breaking findings of sociologist Dr. Susan Brown which proved that rape is about domination. Rapists violate victims because they want to dominate (more…)

Evil came into our relationship.

Saturday afternoon at the Shabbes table, a man told the following lesson from Torah: Before God created the world, He created two forces: the force that gives and the force that receives. After a while, the force that receives said, “I’m full. I do not want to receive anymore.” The force that gives wanted to continue giving and it became frustrated. And that is how evil came into the world. Immediately, I thought “That is the spiritual blueprint for my relationship with David. Wow, just wow.” I am the force that gives and when he chose to freeze me out, I became frustrated (more…)

Comforting a Stranger.

I received an email from the blood bank that if I donated blood this month, I would get both a free movie ticket and a t-shirt, so I made an appointment to donate after work. The blood mobile was crowded and the waiting made me anxious. I began to worry that I wouldn’t be able to donate and instead would make a run for it. Plus, my favorite nurse, who is a funny Jamaican lady, was crabby. Clearly, something was wrong. Finally it was my turn on the donation bed. The nurse hooked me up and asked me, “What kind of (more…)

People are Born to be Kind.

Kindness by www.reallife.co.za I saw an interesting television show about the emotions of compassion and anger, National Geographic’s Brain Games, S5, Ep2. They showed a psychological study that was done with babies ages 8 to 12 months. In that age group, the babies can express their choices and preferences, but they have no verbal language skills yet. Each baby was presented with a puppet show. A kitten tries to open a box, but a doggie wearing a yellow t-shirt jumps on the lid and slams it shut. The kitten tries to open the box again, and a doggie wearing a blue (more…)

The Language of Recovery after a Narcissist’s Attack.

Stage 1: I miss David. I love David. We were meant to be together forever. . Stage 2: I feel so connected to my narcissist, but I am beginning to realize that he has a pattern of abuse. . Stage 3: The narcissist was faking the whole time. He never loved me. . Stage 4: A narcissist is incapable of forming attachments. They do not experience love. . Stage 5: I will learn to spot red flags and to heed my instincts. . “The Language of Recovery after a Narcissist’s Attack.” is copyright © 2015 by 18mitzvot. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. Please (more…)