Red Flags that Your Lover is Abusive.

I am re-posting this image because it is a snapshot of my ex-marriage to my ex-abuser. Conversations went like this: ignore me yawn avoid eye contact interrupt mention some mistake I made 3 years ago deny talk thru me or shout over me be dismissive hijack the conversation Please share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Google+ (Opens in new window)Click to share (more…)

Re: SexyBeast.

SexyBeast was my first husband. I left him 20 years ago, and he didn’t understand why. To him, it seemed like it came out of nowhere and he was devastated. He fought hard to get me to change my mind, but I don’t ever change my mind. There was nothing he could do to make me go home. . 20 years have passed and I moved back to town. I have to drive past the house often these days, which upsets me. I both worry and get excited about running into him in town one day. So I’ve decided to send (more…)

Narcissist Collects More Evidence Against Me.

Recently I wrote about my ex-husband (narcissist) leaving “lovenotes” in my boxes of stuff that I had been storing in the basement of our former marital home. You guys loved his insanity so much that the post got over 900 hits in two days! Link: Well, I found another note to share with you. Oh, what a caring pet owner to take so many pictures. Too bad she would later not just leave them, but leave them in the care of a bankrupted individual for whom the financial cost was nearly overwhelming. Too bad that “womyn” was the direct reason (more…)

Poor Narcissists Feel Abused, Too.

Remember how I wrote that my NPD husband had gone thru each and every one of my storage boxes? And how he needed to fondle each item and then repack the boxes? (Creepy, yes, I know…) Well, he also left notes on some things. For example: Note from my NPD husband. This is a joke poem that my boss gave to me in college, c.1987. My NPD spouse found it, placed it in this golden frame, and left a note on it. I thought the poem was really funny because it exposes how completely unreasonable women can be to their mates. (more…)

Narcisstic Weirdness.

I arrived safely in Aurora, Illinois; found the local Jewish community; and started writing my first blog posts… when my laptop crashed. Boo hiss! My beloved computer is less than one year old and still under warranty. I actually bought her here in Aurora, so I took her back to the TigerDirect shop to be repaired and they are going out of business. Oh no! Now I am back to posting from my cellphone until I can sort this out. I feel limited, held back, and I hate that. On the plus side, there is a WordPress meet-up group in the (more…)

Photographic Burdens.

Moving Day is in five days. I was packing up the closet when I came across the photos of my ex-wedding. My mom had thought I would want them, so she gave them to me, and I promptly stashed them away. I wish she hadn’t given them to me. I could throw them in the garbage and pretend she never did. The thing is, I took my own wedding photos. I used a tripod that I had bought at K-Mart for $26 and my fully-manual SLR 35mm camera that used actual film (on a timer). I remember I told my ex-husband that I planned (more…)

Catching a Narcissist in a Lie.

Let’s say the narcissist has been cheating, having sex with other women. There are numerous ways that he or she can be outed: The other woman may catch him cheating on her with you. Now you know, too. The other woman may already know about you, but believe you and the narcissist are separating. When it takes too much time, she may get impatient and let you know about the affair. A credit card statement shows him paying for expensive dining or a hotel room. A Good Samaritan phones to tell you he left his wallet somewhere that he wasn’t supposed (more…)