Actually, it wasn’t a dream. It was a photograph. Remember the old instant cameras that took a photo that was square with a white border around it? I saw one of those photos in my mind while I was asleep, and I “knew” it was from David’s Facebook page.
[To be clear, David blocked me from his Facebook over a year ago and I never tried to circumvent his ruling. I could have gone to mutual acquaintances to see what he posted, but I knew the narcissist well enough to be certain that he would use his Facebook profile as a weapon to punish me. Consequently, I was glad that he shut and locked that door. It saved me from extra pain.]
No Contact means no peeking at social media!
In the instant photo, there is a boy-girl couple seated in the foreground. They are happy and smiling at the camera, completely oblivious to the domination struggle that is going on less than a meter behind them.
Behind them, sit David and his new girlfriend. She is leaning her body away from him as if she is trying to get away, but David has one arm around her shoulders. It’s meant to look like a hug, but he is firmly constraining her. Meanwhile he is seductively speaking lies to her in an attempt to brainwash the girl.
I got all that from a photograph in a dream.
-If it’s really happening, I hope she gets away quickly and safely, and that she has a good support system.
-And if it’s not really happening, hoorah for me and my dream-mind to remind myself how David operates.
At first, I thought “Aww, shit! Now I guess I have to go look at his Facebook.”
But no, I really don’t have to look. I don’t need confirmation of his nefarious activities.
It’s not good for me (healthy) to internet stalk. Primarily, because it’s too dangerous for my peace of mind.
Seeing pictures of him pretending to be happy and pretending to be cured could re-stimulate my complicated grief and leave me feeling miserable.
Maybe it would or maybe it wouldn’t; but No Contact (and no peeking) is the healthiest way to deal with a narcissist, so I’m not gonna look. The brief dream I had reminded me of how evil he is (or sick, depending on which camp you are in). Every day we get to choose between evil and peace. Today I choose peace.
“I had a dream about the narcissist and his new girlfriend.” is copyright © 2015 by Poorkitteh. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
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