I’ve been watching this kid’s movie, “Disney’s Descendants”, about the children of villains, who are given scholarships to attend a prestigious prep school. Will the kids continue to be hooligans? Or will they seize the opportunity to become good citizens?
This movie plot has all of my favorite elements (and more): movie_list
The main reason I watched this film almost 50 times this week is because the wicked heroine falls in love with the goodly Prince – and he loves her right back. He loves her and she loves him. That is the fantasy world that I want to live in.
So I keep watching the movie.
This guy, Prince Ben, he’s fantastic.
I want this man. (Not necessarily the 16-year old kid in the story, but a similar man of an appropriate age for me.)
But I think men like Prince Ben do not exist. I think they are unicorns. They used to exist, but we killed them all. Now unicorns exist strictly in mythology. And so do loving, unselfish men who want to do good in the world and who have deep feelings for other people.
[…Oh, did I forget to mention that the perfect man has to be not gay? Given that I am a woman (who has lady parts), my Prince Ben needs to be attracted to women. I’m just sayin… I have many guy friends who are loving and unselfish… and also gay. That’s not gonna work in this fantasy scenario of mine.]
– And that is my complaint. Where is Prince Ben?
Where is the man who will love me more than he loves himself?
… who will love me more than his money?
… who will love me more than his Mommy?!
…or his racecar? …or his recliner?
Unicorns, I tell ya. Loving men used to exist but now they don’t. It’s a legend.
So why watch the movie fifty times? I’ll tell you. I am Highly Sensitive. I see the characters; I feel what they are feeling; and my brain releases the chemicals the same as if it were truly happening to me. My overly-empathic brain doesn’t know the difference between television and real life. Every time Mal confesses her love for Ben, I cry; and as tears are falling on my cheeks, I think “I want to be in love with a man like that.” The chemicals kick in and for five minutes, I feel comforted.
The naysayers of the world unite to label me: immature, crippled by magical thinking, fixated on fantasy, etc. – but I don’t have the same kind of brain that they have – and personally, I think mine is better. I think my heightened empathy is the next step in human evolution. People like me are different and our specialness has to do with our heightened capacity to feel and give love. Love is not weak or ridiculous. It’s actually really amazing.
“Disney’s Descendants, Unicorns, Love, and HSP’s.” is copyright © 2015 by Poorkitteh. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
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