Once you get dumped by a narcissist, it is imperative that you stay away from them. One reason is that you must give your body time to complete the physical withdrawal from oxytocin. Another reason is that you must break the trauma bond. Yet another reason is self-preservation. If you are unable to stay away, the narcissist will destroy you – and I don’t mean figuratively.
Staying away means No Contact: no face-to-face visits, no talking on the telephone, no emails sent by you, no text messages sent by you, and no stalking them on Facebook just to see what they are doing.
Even after a year, I still feel the urge to write to my narcissist and sometimes I have to get tough about it with myself. This exercise worked for me last time. I did not break No Contact.
Sometimes when I feel the urge to contact the narcissist, I say affirmations out loud.
Substitute the name of your narcissist for mine and repeat out loud.