I saw an interesting television show about the emotions of compassion and anger, National Geographic’s Brain Games, S5, Ep2. They showed a psychological study that was done with babies ages 8 to 12 months. In that age group, the babies can express their choices and preferences, but they have no verbal language skills yet. Each baby was presented with a puppet show. A kitten tries to open a box, but a doggie wearing a yellow t-shirt jumps on the lid and slams it shut. The kitten tries to open the box again, and a doggie wearing a blue t-shirt helps the kitten to open the box. Then the babies were offered both doggies and asked, “Which one would you like to play with?” ~ Most of the babies chose the yellow doggie; a small percentage chose the blue doggie. (P.S. Those were the narcissists!) The study showed that even before humans have language skills, we have a preference for compassionate behaviors in others and choose helpful over mean. Because the babies were so young, the researchers claimed this experiment showed that humans are biologically hard-wired for compassion (wanting to help others). Next, the show talked about the Vagus nerve and the release of oxytocin from the hypothalamus. The Darwinists suggested that helping those in need and receiving the kindness of others provides a survival advantage.
Unfortunately, my parents came home too soon, found me on the couch in my pajamas at noon, and I had to go hide in my bedroom before I got to see the end of the program! This next part isn’t science (because it is not a repeatable experiment and there is no control group), but I responded to the explanation of how compassion and empathy release oxytocin, a chemical which makes us feel good. Being in love with the narcissist was causing a drug to be released into my brain every time I got near him – and it was extremely pleasurable. Of course this would create a physical addiction, and that addiction would have physical withdrawal symptoms because I wanted my oxytocin and the giddy high that it gives me. My opinion of myself is that, for certain, I release more oxytocin when I am in love than the average person does. Again, this is not a scientific fact, but is based on my subjective experience.
I think it could work like this:
Conclusion: I was under the influence of pleasure chemicals when I let
David the narcissist take all my power away, therefore, I am not to blame!
Science… bend it to your will.
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