20 Feb 2015. Today’s community goal is to get 1000 bloggers to post about compassion, kindness, and caring for others. As the Facebook page says, let’s “flood the blogosphere with GOOD!” Well, this blog is about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, its’ aftermath, and the long journey to recovery. Therefore, I have decided to write about showing kindness to the narcissist.
That’s right. Showing kindness to the narcissist.
…and having compassion for his or her suffering.
But first, let’s simplify the deficiencies of the English language and go with: show kindness to the narcissist for its’ suffering (instead of his or hers, which is too much to say).
Every good person (potential target) would do well to learn to see things from the narcissist’s point-of-view. The narcissist, it feels compelled to destroy everyone who crosses its’ path. Why? Well, mostly because people are so full of emotions: creativity, optimism, love and affection, connectedness and belonging, joy, and even sorrow. People are overflowing with potential and the possibilities make one giddy with happiness – because the world is a beautiful place.
But not to the narcissist. Oh, it is so tiring to have to pretend that it gives a shit about all the little people and their tedious lives. Enough with the happy already! It doesn’t want to hear how much you love your children or how excited you feel that your best friend is getting a promotion at work. Don’t you understand that everyone is out to get you?
The best way to show compassion for the narcissist is to go No Contact. Prove to the narcissist in your life that you are truly aware of its’ distress and you understand how the joyfulness of good people makes it want to burn its’ eyes out and stop up its’ ears with wax. Show your kindness and step away from the narcissist. Let it be alone to rock itself in the damp darkness of its’ den – while you go on with the rest of your life and enjoy the love of your family and friends.