Because the single most important thing in the world to me is keeping the Jewish Shabbat, I need to look for a husband who is Jewish. Keeping Shabbat means no telephones or computers from Friday sunset until Saturday sunset, no taking the car to an event or a party, no clubbing on Friday night, no trips to the mall on Saturday, no Saturday baseball games… these are things that most Americans do religiously. (Get it?) The activities that are allowed on Shabbat are: sleeping, eating, reading, visiting friends (if you can walk to them), and sex between husband and wife. My usual Shabbat day consists of eating, reading, eating again, reading some more, taking a two hour nap, and then eating again. It’s awesome!
Step one was to register at a Jewish dating internet site. I blogged about that here:
I found that while there were many attractive and interesting guys registered on the site, they seemed to be more secular than what I want to do in my future marital home. That’s not a good idea because it guarantees future conflict. Also, the men were more likely to select “looking for dates” while the women selected “looking for marriage”. So I moved on to step two, a professional matchmaker.
The professional matchmaker is still via an online website, as opposed to a person who lives in my shtetl (neighborhood). I filled out a very detailed online analysis of myself, which is now available to 20 professional matchmakers who have a clientele of people who admit to seeking marriage partners and not seeking a casual something. I found my stride when I was writing my bio. It flowed easily and naturally as I explained who I am, what I like to do, what are my expectations of a marriage partner, and what are my expectations of our future life together. The only area where I held back was when I was asked to write about my future mate. If I look at my past track record, clearly I will always chose the needy guy who is crazy or has a drug addiction, therefore, I left the husband part almost completely blank. I have no idea who would be good for me, do I? The most I did was to limit his age, as I find it gross and psychologically disturbing to have sex with a man who is more than ten years older than me; and I listed the ideal qualities of my future mate as: kind and passionate. I also wrote that he should like to study Torah with me at home and he should hold down a job and support us as a family. In summary, that’s:
I hope that’s not too open or too demanding a list. I hope it’s… just right. We shall see, but I feel very excited about the possibilities.
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