Source: http://richawriter.hubpages.com/hub/Highly-Sensitive-People-and-Social-Anxiety-Highly-Sensitive-People-are-More-at-Risk-of-Anxiety by Richard O’Neill
This article has two great tables of HSP characteristics that I wanted to share, but I can’t make WordPress copy the tables. Anyhow, the material made for me a free flow of ideas connecting the narcissist and the empath.
However, there is no doubt in my mind, the HSP population is replete with social anxiety sufferers due to our hyper-active nervous system which notices every little detail in our environment, even the unwanted stuff that most normal people would ignore.
I can give an example of the last one. When I was about 10 years old, the big thing with the children in the neighborhood was playing a game called “Spin-the-Bottle”. The pre-pubescent boys and girls would hide in my grandparents’ garage and make up an excuse to kiss each other. Basically, each child would spin the bottle and then give a kiss to whoever the bottle pointed to if that child was of the opposite sex only. I wasn’t interested in kissing, but I want to be part of the group and to be accepted by the cool kids. One of the boys begged me to let him look under my shirt. I was confused because I knew that my chest and my nipples didn’t look any different from his chest and his nipples (since we were both 10-years old). I didn’t understand why he would want to look at me and I felt uncomfortable about it, but I reluctantly agreed. I was 100% motivated by peer pressure that “the other kids were doing it” and they were cooler than me. The boy looked under my shirt, saw that I did not have breasts yet, and dismissed me in a quick and cold manner! I remember feeling rejected, used, and deceived. And that was my first lesson about boys and sexuality. The author is saying that because a Highly Sensitive child is invested in the emotions and needs of the people around her, she can be coerced into doing things that are demeaning and make her feel dirty, like having sex too soon. These negative feelings then lead to social anxiety and the avoidance of dating and relationships. Whereas “normal” kids who are not overly sensitive do not develop social anxiety and fears from incidents of bullying. They just get over it, I guess.
Some ways this relates to being in a relationship with a narcissist are:
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