To define empathy, I went to the Merriam-Webster Medical Dictionary. This is significant because it indicates an effort on the part of the scientific community (which deals with empirical data and verifiable phenomenon) to begin to label and to measure something that is essentially emotions (i.e. fluff, a thought or possibly a chemical hormone in the human brain). Empathy consists of bli-mah (there’s nothing there to see, to touch or to weigh). Empathy has no physicality or physical form.
Medical Definition of EMPATHY
1: the imaginative projection of a subjective state into an object so that the object appears to be infused with it.
2: the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner: also : the capacity for empathy.
What is a Narcissist?
A person who has the mental illness called NPD.
In no way is the narcissist merely a selfish person or someone who thinks too much of themselves. Rather, the true, clinical narcissist is a predator who has an agenda to use, abuse, and destroy other people.
From Merriam-Webster Online:
narcissism: noun (Concise Encyclopedia)
Mental disorder characterized by extreme self-absorption, an exaggerated sense of self-importance, and a need for attention and admiration from others. First identified by Havelock Ellis in 1898, the disorder is named for the mythological Narcissus, who fell in love with his own reflection. In addition to an inflated self-image and addiction to fantasy, narcissism is characterized by an unusual coolness and composure, which is shaken only when the narcissistic confidence is threatened, and by the tendency to take others for granted or to exploit them. According to Sigmund Freud, narcissism is a normal stage in children’s development, but it is considered a disorder when it occurs after puberty.