A very well written story about the early stages of coping with the red flags of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
What is also part of this mix is: we project onto them, who we want them to be. So, the whole picture of them that we see is part their lies, and also part our lies.
I hear what you are saying, but the reason David was “part my lies” was because he questioned me in order to discover what qualities I desired in my perfect mate and then he assumed those qualities. I was smitten by the man who was too good to be true.
Yes. I completely understand. They use THEIR “empath” ( which of course, it is not, truly ) but they use those antennae, to find out how they can capture, then manipulate. I know it well…. This is why,when traditional therapy diagnoses victims of NPD as ” wanting to recreated the relationship you had with your father.” — they are on the total wrong course. ( and I run from these therapists ). What it is, is: Our bad relationships with our fathers ( mine,anyway) created a definite blind spot.. in terms of self esteem, and recognizing fully, being abused… BUT.. these NPD’s are very clever… at how they ensnare, capture, and manipulate. Being of low self-esteem… (and in my case, smart and pretty ).. made me the perfect target… over and over again… without my knowing it ( until i finally did ) how was targeted. These therapists know nothing about NPD… shame on them.
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