Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which one grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.
– Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.
I read this quote on another blog: http://vayjaybrigade.wordpress.com/2014/10/25/deserving/
The roots from which I grew were my parents,
and they parented me with:
Shame: sexual abuse
Blame: they said it was my fault that they abused me
Disrespect: still continuing in my “old age”
Betrayal: choosing the perpetrator over me
Withholding of Affection: ding! ding! ding! We have a winner.
Because of the sexual abuse, I was made sterile, barren, unable to have babies – therefore, I never got to find out if I would have broken their legacy of abusive and negligent parenting or if I would have perpetuated it. Talk is easy, but the proof is in the pudding.