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To feel some sense of power and control, people with BPD or NPD strike out at those they perceive are hurting them -with physical violence, verbal abuse, hurtful rumors spread to family and friends (often called “distortion campaigns”), other actions, or some combination. When a divorce is initiated, regardless of who filed with the court, blamers particularly feel threatened. Many cannot handle seeming in any way responsible for the divorce, which triggers their life long fears of abandonment and inferiority. Therefore, they split their partner into all bad. It feels like a war between good and evil to blamers, so they