Reblog from Kim Saeed: 7 Things Your Narcissist Won’t Tell You

7 Things Your Narcissist Won’t Tell You. As always, Kim’s posts are enlightening; but this one may be unwelcome. Please share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Google+ (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window)Like this:Like Loading... (more…)

Backsliding.

Today I want to go back to Toronto, Canada so I can be near the narcissist. I’m supposed to call him “the narcissist” for my own healing and self protection, but really his name is *David. I feel unfulfilled, okay? It’s not so much that I miss him. I have spent the last six months becoming a semi-expert on narcissism. I understand that he is a significantly damaged human being, and that maintaining No Contact is the only way to keep him from hurting me further. I also understand that the man I am in love with is a fantasy, a (more…)

My Progress Report, June 2014.

Since I left Tzfat – 10 months. (Result: I am once again a wandering Jew.) Unemployed – 10 months. (Result: poor and confidence failing.) Since last face-to-face meeting with narcissist – 8+ months. (Result: no herpes outbreaks at all. Stressor removed.) Since suicide – 7+ months. (Result: floundering. Great scar.) Since last emails with narcissist – ~6 months. (Result: safe to open my email.) No Contact = almost 6 months. (Result: sanity restored.) Changed residence 5 times in last 4 months. (Result: broke and all my belongings are in storage.) Blogging – 3 months. (Results: 114 posts, 203 likes, 71 followers, (more…)

Today, I am thanking the narcissist.

I thought of something that I should thank the narcissist for. My narcissist. David. My lover and my destroyer. The first few months of dating a narcissist are called the Idealization Phase. They use that time to get you emotionally attached to them so they can feed from you later. (Sounds like a scary science fiction plot, doesn’t it?) During this grooming phase, the narcissist showers the target with affection and gifts. Victims say that they never felt so loved before. Sadly, it doesn’t end well. I had an epiphany today as I was reading one of my recent posts: As (more…)

How Caring is Too Caring? (2 of 2)

In the last post, I defended my position as a loving, caring person (or HSP) by saying that I believe it is a gift to be able to feel when other people are suffering; and it is a positive character trait to want to help them. Then I gave a few examples of how this strategy backfired when a narcissist was involved; and how I, the empath, was the one who ended up suffering from trying to help a narcissist. Now I need to talk about BOUNDARIES. As an empath (loving, caring person)(HSP), I will usually give of myself until I (more…)
Someone sent me this saying today in a chain letter, and I immediately thought of the Narcissist.  NPS (narcissist, psychopath or sociopath) The heart of an NPS is sterile as they lack the ability to make emotional connections with others.  An NPS can only navigate the world from a place of complete selfishness. Because they are incapable of letting anyone in, they feel isolated and lonely all the time. Many NPS realize that something is wrong with them or they are different. Some choose to embrace their lack of connectedness to others and become users who take, take, take, and then (more…)

Reblog: Hey, I’m RIGHT here.

I like this post because the writer uses Positive Self Talk to raise her self-esteem. Please share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Google+ (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window)Like this:Like Loading... (more…)